You will notice that “you should” on yourself often. You will say things like “I should exercise.” “I should quit smoking.” “I should be nicer.” “I should spend more time with my kids.” You’ll notice that every time you think you should do something, you actually feel bad and you’re reluctant. If you say “I should exercise,” you’ll notice you feel bad and stupid. It’s almost like saying “Here I am, another example of a defective person because if I were smart, I would have already been exercising.”
You’ll notice “the should” actually de-motivates you rather than gets results.
So what do you do instead? You change the word “should” to the word “want” or “will.” So instead of saying “I should exercise” say “I want to exercise.” or “I will exercise.”
When you replace the word “should” with the word “want” or “will” you’re going to get better results.
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January 28, 2010 at 7:39 am
Very Good Point.
February 5, 2010 at 4:22 pm
Wow…this is so true. “Shoulding” seems so negative and energy-robbing. Using ‘want’ or ‘will’ has so much more power and more likely to kick you into action.
February 14, 2010 at 7:07 pm
Hello,
Everything dynamic and very positively!
Edwas
April 10, 2010 at 12:13 pm
You are so, so right so ALL THE TIME. (Pretty poor grammar, yes?)
And I mean what I say. Thank you for your program every week.
If you ever offer an ongoing course, please let me know.
Again, thank you for what you do!